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In this post we will go over the top seventeen tips that will help you to carry yourself with more confidence. These techniques will help you overcome your anxiety, fears and shyness and feel more confident overall. So lets get right into how to carry yourself with confidence.
Make a Good First Impression
To carry yourself with confidence you need to make a good first impression. Most of us subconsciously judge other people within a few minutes of first meeting them. So if you want to carry yourself with confidence then you must do everything you can to make a good first impression.
Some examples of the things you can do to make a good first impression include to dress well, smile , stand up straight, make eye contact, be polite and speak clearly and having confident body language. Don’t worry, these methods are covered in more detail below along with many other tips on how to carry yourself with confidence.
Have Good Posture
You have probably heard this before, but having good posture is one of the best ways to come across as confident. When you have a poor posture, you are subconsciously sending a signal that you are not confident. Instead, you want to stand straight and tall with your shoulders back and head high. This will help you to feel more confident, and others will be more likely to look at you as confident as well.
Make Eye Contact
Making eye contact with people when you are talking to them is a great way to come off as confident. When you are speaking, look into the person’s eyes until they look away, and then you can look away. Many people make the mistake of looking at their feet or the ground when they are talking, or they don’t make enough eye contact. This makes them look insecure, and makes people think that they are a pushover.
Having good communication skills is another key to projecting confidence. When you are speaking, speak clearly and forcefully. Speak up so that everyone can hear you clearly, and don’t mumble. If people have trouble hearing you, they are going to think that you are shy or not confident.
Dressing well is another key to projecting self confidence. You want to make sure that you are dressed well and that your clothes fit right. You should dress well for all of your interactions, whether you are at work, out with friends or in a social situation.
Have a Good, Pleasant Smell
Our sense of smell is closely tied to our memory and to our emotions, so as well as dressing will it is also very important that you smell good. You want to make sure that you are properly bathing and that you are wearing clean clothes. If you are wearing a perfume, you want to make sure that it isn’t too strong and that it isn’t overwhelming.
Smile More Often
Smiling is such an easy way to come off as confident because it releases endorphins which make you feel good. It is also a great way to make others feel comfortable around you because it creates a positive, happy atmosphere.
Smiling comes naturally when you are confident, so the next time you are out in public make it a point to smile wherever appropriate and watch your confidence level grow each time you do so.
Give A Firm/Confident Handshake
Handshakes are a great way to show confidence and make a good first impression. A lot of people, however, give what is commonly known as the “dead fish” handshake. This is where they just sort of lay their hand in your hand, and they are not confident at all.
What you want to do instead is to give a firm handshake with authority. You want to grip the other person’s hand firmly, but don’t squeeze too hard. You want to be assertive, but not aggressive.
Be a Good Listener
One of the best ways to come off as confident and in control is to show that you are a good listener. People will be far more likely to be drawn to you and to want to interact with you when you can step back and let them do the talking.
An easy way to show that you are a good listener is to nod your head or say, “Mmm Hmm” and “Go on” as they are speaking. This will help them to think that you understand and respect what they are saying, and they will be more likely to want to continue talking with you.
Take Responsibility For Your Mistakes
It is a must that you take responsibility for your actions, and when you do, people will respect you even more. If you make a mistake, take responsibility for it and apologize, but then move on. Everybody makes mistakes and when you can learn to live with that fact, people will respect and revere you for your confidence.
Be Kind to Others
Being kind to others is a great way to come off as confident. When you are kind and generous, people are more likely to perceive you as confident and aspire to be like you. If you are only interested in helping others and are less concerned about what is going on in your own life, people will be more apt to see you as confident.
Be Confident in your Actions and Decisions
Being confident in your actions and decisions is a great way to come off as confident. People will respect you more when you voice your opinion and let them know what you think. You don’t have to be right all of the time, but you want to let them know that you are confident in your position.
Being humble is a good thing as a whole and is a great way to come off as confident. When you are humble, you are not arrogant and you can be vulnerable. When you admit that you don’t know something, people will be more likely to respect and listen to you. Be confident in your knowledge, but do not let your ego get in the way.
Being honest is very important in life, and it shows confidence as well. You want to be honest with yourself and with others, and not be afraid to tell them the truth even if it hurts. If you are honest and truthful, people will respect you for your confidence and honesty.
Don’t be Afraid to Assert Yourself
It is important that you aren’t afraid to assert yourself, and stand up for what you believe. This is a great way to come off as confident and to let people know that you are the one who is going to make things happen. When people see that you are assertive and confident, they will be more likely to respect you and follow your lead.
Treat Others with Respect
One of the best ways to come off as confident is to treat everybody with respect and dignity. Whether you are speaking with a child, or with somebody older or in a higher position, you want to respect their opinion and their right to have it. Treat others with respect, and they will be more likely to respect you as well.
As well as treating others with respect you also need to respect yourself if you want to learn how to carry yourself with confidence because when you respect yourself, others will see that and respect you as well.
Walk with Confidence
Your walk is a reflection of how you feel and how confident you are. When you walk with confidence, you are letting others know that you are feeling confident and in control of your surroundings. We have covered how to walk with confidence in great detail in this post.
Project an Air of Authority
A great way to come off as confident and put others at ease around you is to project an air of authority. When you speak with authority and assurance, people will feel more confident in your ability to get things done and get them done right. You want to speak with confidence and pronounce every syllable so that people can hear you clearly. You also want to allow just a small pause after you make a point. This will allow your statement to hang in the air for a moment and give the impression that you know what you are talking about.
Laugh at Yourself
Everybody makes mistakes, and when you can laugh at yourself when you make one, you will come off as confident and likeable. If you trip or make a mistake, don’t let it get you down or intimidate you. Laugh off the fact that you tripped or made a mistake and move on.
You want to show people that you are confident in your strengths and that you are willing to laugh at your weaknesses.
Get Good at Public Speaking
Learning to speak publicly is a great way to come off as confident, and you will find that your confidence will grow not only in public speaking situations, but in all of your other interactions as well.
Public speaking at can fill some people with anxiety and nervousness, but there are ways of building confidence towards public speaking such as speaking up whenever you get the chance at a family or social gathering when to voice your opinion on a topic.
Or if you want to talk to someone new at a party, introduce yourself. If you want to make a statement, do so. The more you practice speaking publicly, the better you will get at it and the more confident you will become.
Have Some Goals
Goals are a great way to come off as confident because they show that you are aware of what you want and you are striving to achieve it. Having goals is a great way to stay motivated and to keep yourself on track because you know what you are working towards, here is a great post on goal setting if are interested in learning more.
Learning how to come off as confident is very important in life, and it is something that is a must if you want people to respect you and want to listen to you and what you have to say.
Don’t let your fear or lack of confidence get in the way of the life that you want to live, because it is possible to come out on top as long as you are willing to work on building confidence and pushing yourself through your comfort zone.
So don’t wait any longer, and start implementing the techniques that we have covered for how to carry yourself with confidence into your daily life.
You will quickly see how you start to feel more confident and how you start to get the respect, attention and success that you deserve.
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